What to write on a get-well postcard
When someone is unwell, most of us freeze. We do not know what to say, so we say nothing. A postcard helps because it is small: it asks for no reply, it takes ten seconds to read, and it can be propped up next to the bed.
What a get-well card is for
It has one job: to tell the person they are thought of. It does not need to fix anything, explain anything or cheer them up on command.
A simple shape
- Say you are thinking of them. Plainly.
- Give them something from the outside world. A bit of news, a joke, a small story. People who are stuck at home or in a hospital miss ordinary life.
- Take the pressure off. Tell them no reply is needed.
Messages you can borrow
After surgery
"Heard it went well. I am so glad. Rest properly, and let people bring you things. No need to write back."
For a long illness
"Thinking of you today, like most days. The maple on your street has turned bright red. I'll send a photo each week until you can see it yourself."
For a broken bone or an injury
"Sorry about the ankle. The good news is that you now have a perfect excuse to skip the office party. Soup is on its way Thursday."
For a friend having a hard time
"No advice, just a hello. I am around, and I am good at sitting quietly. Call whenever."
For a child
"Being sick is boring. Here is a picture of a dog in a hat to help. Feel better soon, champ."
For a coworker
"We miss you, and everything here can wait. Take the time you need."
What to leave out
- Advice. They have doctors and search engines.
- "Everything happens for a reason." It rarely helps.
- Your own medical stories. Keep the card about them.
- Questions that need answers. "How are you feeling?" turns the card into homework.
Pick a front that does some of the work
- A photo of a place they love and will get back to.
- Their pet, or yours, looking ridiculous.
- A picture made from one line, such as "a bear in pajamas drinking tea", when you want them to laugh.
Send more than one
The first week of an illness brings flowers and messages. The fourth week is quiet. A second card a few weeks later often means more than the first.
When you are ready, make a get-well postcard. We print it, add the stamp and mail it, so you do not have to find a card shop.